Amateur by Thomas Page McBee
Huge thank you to all those who braved the horribly dark and grim evening on Tuesday to come out and humour my excitement at the Book Club reaching the grand old age of one! It was lovely to have celebratory cake (rather than just our normal Tuesday cake) and a drink at the Maltsters afterwards, and as always, it was great to welcome new faces.
Amateur prompted some really fascinating discussions, which I’m not sure I managed to fully capture in short hand, but I’ll do my best!
When he talks about his own story, it is very compelling.
Some found the first section of the book quite hard-going.
Some really enjoyed the passages directly related to boxing.
Author was extremely self-aware and great at unpicking his own thoughts and feelings. Not typical in men?
For some, the book gave them an insight into the patriarchy and built in stereotypes. The assumption of competence being very interesting.
Such a unique perspective, not just because he is a trans man but also because of his ability to ‘pass’.
Many reflected on feeling like an ‘ornament’ around men; not listened to, talked over etc. and connected to the passages about feeling vulnerable on the streets, vulnerable in our own bodies.
Great insight into the mental/emotional transition.
F. Scott Fitzgerald: ‘The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.’
We loved the passages about his mum: ‘A golden core’
Similar to Born a Crime by Trevor Noah in that the mother is present throughout.
The physical touch and its acceptability in the boxing ring; tender and intimate.
The duality of the boxing ring.
Would love to hear what boxers think of this book.
Does that fact the he’s a journalist explain why the first section of the book felt a bit more disjointed?
Boxing is what makes it special, it wouldn’t have the same impact if he’d trained at tennis or joined a team sport. Boxing is such a good metaphor for life.
Really liked both of the coaches.
A great insight as we tend to see and hear from more trans women in the media.
The fact that McBee reports that every time he’s on TV, there’s always another man there to tell him why he’s not a man.
The argument that this offers ‘balance’. Some things don’t need balance. No-platforming.
The ‘snow-flake generation’ and the health and safety analogy. Just making sure people are safe.
Having to constantly out yourself, as well as there always being images online of you pre-transition. Removing images from Google, will become more of a thing in the future?
McBee is the masculinity expert for Vice.
Womens fear of men is ingrained. We are taught from a young age how to protect ourselves, boys not necessarily taught to look out for girls.
We really liked Jess.
Workplaces and emotional intelligence.
Maggie Nelson quote ‘sitting with someone uncurling his hands, then holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there’.
The ‘crisis of masculinity’ in America. Is it because of its unique culture? The Greatest Country in the World philosophy. What happens if you’re not living up to the ideal?
– Man Alive by Thomas Page McBee
– The Power of One by Bryce Courtney
– The Fight by Norman Mailer
– Million Dollar Baby by F.X Toole
– Rethinking Masculinity on the Guardian Books Podcast
– Seahorse: documentary
Please do comment below if you’ve read along and want to share your thoughts!
Looking forward to the next book club meeting on Tuesday 26th November where we’ll be discussing Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro. Keep an eye out for our 2020 book club pick, coming soon!